I'm not really sure about this, but I kinda have this theory that happy people basically does not need much. And unhappy people, well, they 'need' more than what they need.
Happy people is basically a bunch of mentally 'satisfied' humans. Who thinks that they have more than enough slices of 'life's' cake. They might not have a Ferragamo or a Milan holiday but could not care less about it. They are basically happy with their life, alongside their loved ones. And if they DO have a mansion in Monte Carlo and a luxury yacht, well, to them, it's a bonus and they would LOVE to share it with anyone.
In other words, they don't need that much to be happy. No gizmos nor branded stuff nor lifestyle to brag. The basic bare necessities of life are enough to move them along life.
Unhappy people on the other hand, needs more than life's bare necessities. They go around thinking that they NEED that over-the-top handbag or designers shoes. And at the back of their mind, each purchase will 'make' them happy. It's uncommon that unhappy people brags more about their life than 'normal' people. Be it that it's done discreetly or openly, it gives them satisfaction to feel 'higher' than other people. And that very little happiness counts a lot to them.
*Now, bragging discreetly is a very interesting topic - perhaps it's a blog of its own. Stay tune!
Back to this; I've seen couples who seemed so quiet and simple, who doesn't talk much about themselves but rather, listens more; are usually more happy than others. And to me, that is the ultimate measurement of confidence and success.
I've also seen couples who talks so much and 'bragging discreetly' all the time, would confide more with their friends than their loved ones. That, to me, is a measurement of trust (or the lack of it) and unhealthy relationship between 2 people.
I think I'm steering off the topic here. But, basically, to be happy, you don't need much. Just having someone to love, be it your family or your partner. That's enough.
Money makes thing easier. But does not bring happiness.
Sidetrack:
There was one time someone asked Sara, "Is it OK, after you've married, that the wife to have a close male friend, coz he's like the bestest of friend since forever?"
Sara just replied, "If that guy is the bestest of friends, why the heck didn't she marry him in the first place?? Your hubby is SUPPOSED to be your bestest friend. Period."
5 comments:
Iffil, couldnt agree more with sara (err.. try to replace the "guy" with "gal" vice versa, u knw wht I mean)
On the happiness thingy, one will determine its own happiness, be it having a pair of bata, a DSLR or even a fake gucci..
(dapat main ngan anak2 ths morning pun happy giler lah..)
awww...what sara said is so true! I once told someone, that sometimes, all you need is this one person, who's your lover, your partner in crime and the best of all, your ultimate bestest friend. I'm so happy that the both of you are best friends to each other. *smile*
I am going to find that bestest friend since im still single.
Partner in crime sounds OK.
salam bro,
Totally agree on this matter. Simple life could be the way of life especially in the current global economic situation. Although to some it's an act of demotivated people ....not really sure but I'll go for simple living. Who need Rome vacation when you have Kuala sedim ...hehehe
bcos we just spoend 8 hours of intimate time together in the class room just now, it dawn upon me that i have not visited this pages for sometimes. I totally disagree with you (to put tension in the system). Yes, life is good with a waja or an escape, but Ford Edge is simply out of this world, just look at the american front grilled. I will continue to talk about the edge untill u get one! I will continue to drive my waja simply bcos I dah abis bayar bank.
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