Be All You Can Be!

Are you a "role model" or a "case study"?

Joker of the Month

Believe it or not, this picture was choreographed
by our funny-gal... Miss Marsha. Joker!

Self Reflection

I am, by all means, not perfect... by 53.6 gazillion light-years away, to be exact. But, it's a relief to know that I'm not alone. But ironically, I can't help but noticing that there are some people who actually thought that they ARE perfect. More ironic, some of these people, they are just wayyy OUT of the scale that it's just impossible to plan a salvation. In short, these are the ego-centric people. A common trait for these type of people is that, they don't really practice 'self-reflection'. Instead, they adore criticising others. Other's imperfection glimmers like a diamond to them, and how they love talking about it. But as I try to understand this group of people, I notice that most of them DO NOT have good friends. Yes... they might think that they have, but the sad truth is, no of them are true friends. Which brings us to the fact that, without true friends, you can't perform "self-reflections". There's no one to criticize you. Or to correct your mistakes. Or to give feedbacks or inputs when you ask (or do not ask) for one. Do you notice that when ego-centric talks, nobody will say anything or debate the topic? The reason is mainly because, ego-centrics are emotionally-based and often talk bad of others. People keeping quiet while they talk is just a way to past time until they stop talking or leave.

Anyway, self-reflection is a sure way of improving yourself. We must all know where we stand in this world and keep improving our position. And a quick way of doing this, is to perform daily self-reflection with your best friend. Of course, by default, if you're married, your best friend is your spouse. Talk about annoying things you see, and try to understand why it happens. And of course, ask if you are as annoying as that. Your spouse will give you an honest answer. And you'll improve from there on.

One reason ego-centric drifts further away is that their ego is too big that they do not want to expose their imperfections - especially to their 'supposedly' best friend - their spouse or partner. And, really... that's just fundamentally wrong. Think about it. Anyway, in short, if you do an environmental scan and realizes that you don't have a good friend that can give you an honest answer or finds it difficult to 'open-up' to your partner or spouse, then it's time to check that "ego-meter" and step off the "ego-pedal". Worry not... nobody's perfect... and it's never too late.