Happiness vs Materialistic

I'm not really sure about this, but I kinda have this theory that happy people basically does not need much. And unhappy people, well, they 'need' more than what they need.

Happy people is basically a bunch of mentally 'satisfied' humans. Who thinks that they have more than enough slices of 'life's' cake. They might not have a Ferragamo or a Milan holiday but could not care less about it. They are basically happy with their life, alongside their loved ones. And if they DO have a mansion in Monte Carlo and a luxury yacht, well, to them, it's a bonus and they would LOVE to share it with anyone.

In other words, they don't need that much to be happy. No gizmos nor branded stuff nor lifestyle to brag. The basic bare necessities of life are enough to move them along life.

Unhappy people on the other hand, needs more than life's bare necessities. They go around thinking that they NEED that over-the-top handbag or designers shoes. And at the back of their mind, each purchase will 'make' them happy. It's uncommon that unhappy people brags more about their life than 'normal' people. Be it that it's done discreetly or openly, it gives them satisfaction to feel 'higher' than other people. And that very little happiness counts a lot to them.

*Now, bragging discreetly is a very interesting topic - perhaps it's a blog of its own. Stay tune!

Back to this; I've seen couples who seemed so quiet and simple, who doesn't talk much about themselves but rather, listens more; are usually more happy than others. And to me, that is the ultimate measurement of confidence and success.

I've also seen couples who talks so much and 'bragging discreetly' all the time, would confide more with their friends than their loved ones. That, to me, is a measurement of trust (or the lack of it) and unhealthy relationship between 2 people.

I think I'm steering off the topic here. But, basically, to be happy, you don't need much. Just having someone to love, be it your family or your partner. That's enough.

Money makes thing easier. But does not bring happiness.

Sidetrack:
There was one time someone asked Sara, "Is it OK, after you've married, that the wife to have a close male friend, coz he's like the bestest of friend since forever?"

Sara just replied, "If that guy is the bestest of friends, why the heck didn't she marry him in the first place?? Your hubby is SUPPOSED to be your bestest friend. Period."

No Friend-friend

Today, I've canceled my Friendster subscription. Nothing personal here. Just that, I rarely go into it and the notifications are killing my Inbox. So, from now on, there's only Facebook as my virtual community network.