Tuesday, October 17, 2006

In a flash!

I'm so lazy to update my blog... huaarrgghhhh! There's been so many things happening that I could hardly find time to sit down and type stuff in my blog. For the past 1-2 weeks... let's see:

- it was my b'day on the 9th October. I blew a candle on the 8th for someone's b'day, and blew another on the 10th. Nothing happened on the 9th.

- I was in back in my hometown on the 10th, 11th and 12th. Yes, I went back on weekdays, coz I had to send my maid to the airport, she's going back to Indonesia. It's her annual 1-mth break, and this time, we let her go during Raya - it's the best time to be with family. I asked her, how long is the drive from her home to the Solo airport? She said ~3hrs. We were like, wow. What rural area she must have come from. THEN! I thought, hey, wait a minute! It took ME 5 FREAKIN' HOURS to get to this KLIA airport! I'M THE SO-RURAL!

- Got M-I-L and S-I-L to stay with us for a week before the Raya weeklong holiday. They're here mainly to take care of Marsha while we go to work. That also means, I have no choice. It's Alor Setar for 1st day Raya.

- My new job is 2 light years away from what I previously do. Now I manage a Planning group. So, 3 weeks ago, before my transition, I quickly asked my admin to print my business card, bearing my previous job's title, mainly coz I wanted the word "Engineer" to be there.

- Had pot-luck party with my close friends just now. 60% attendance rate. 2 families couldn't make it. Yes, calculate that. I don't have too many close friends. But lots of food around, tho. But we were too busy chit-chatting, food was second on the agenda. The trade off from the fun-time... my maid @ bibik is NOT around. I hurt my back washing the dishes. If I had more time, I'd put a signage at the kitchen sink that reads "Bibik on Annual Leave. Please wash thy plates." Kidding, guys :-) I had a good time. Just have to find that heaty-plaster to put on my back, that's all.

- Oh, highlight of my b'day, well, post-b-day to be axact. On the 10th, my sis-in-law got me the BEST chocolate cake EVEH! She put 2 candles on it and call it my 'birthday' cake. I felt like I'm 20 again. Thank you, Kak Ida =D.

- Over the past week, I rebuilt 2 of my Radio Controlled cars. 1 was set-up for racing, and the other set-up to go sideways, or drift, as the craze is nowadays. Boy, I feel like I'm 15 again.

I better not start on Lego.

Saturday, October 07, 2006

Rootcause B'gosh

8 years ago, a Libran like me, was probably asking for a piece of hell when I decided to marry my Aries wife (yes, cloud-9 really do clouds the klout).

You see, I've never been the type who reads the Astrology column during breakfast but a year ago, Madam Zodiac was forwarded into my Inbox. And to my suprise, Libra is supposed to be the EXACT opposite of Aries - which is read as: we should not even want to know each other.

The zodiacs were stressing on just how DIFFERENT Libra and Aries are that it's impossible to find a common like. Well, let the truth be known: I agree. Here, check this list out:

Iffil: Spicy food, please.
Sara: Chillies? Wanna kill me?

Iffil: Rolls on the floor over chicken crossing the road joke.
Sara: Just looks at Iffil, in disbelief.

Iffil: Needs 4 days to think of where to hang a picture.
Sara: Needs a nail, a hammer and a wall. Max - 2mins.

Yes, the zodiac is spot on for my case. But the weird thing is, even BEFORE we were married, we were 'special' friends for 6 years. And now, 8 years into our marriage, still in love with each other as we were during our Cloud-9 days.

Which prompted me to think. People usually use similarities as the plus points when searching for a life partner. In fact, so much time is spent in finding someone with the most similarities. But in actual - similarity matters not. What promises a brighter future is having the right attitude and personality.

One quick way to see a person with good attitude is; observing how a person RE-ACTS to a problem. If he's patient, forward-looking, always looking for a solution - then no mountain of difference is high enough. I'm probably just 10% of this. But I do try to be sensitive to my reaction to her preferences. And she does the same thing too - err... I think. Which leads me to think another thing: all of the world's problem is actually a result of REACTIONS. Think about it.

So, conslusion: your reaction is the make-or-break point. Therefore, the rootcause b'gosh is: the problem of the problem is not the problem but it's how you REACT to it. Note to unmarried people: find a good problem-solver as your partner... not a problem-maker.